We have been so accustomed to society’s mainstream formula of success. It is the age old success engine starting from going to school(including tertiary), attaining good grades, graduating and landing a high paying job, meaning you earn good money to provide for your family and what we do not realise is that the goal of this world renowned formula to obtain success is survival, i.e.. making just enough to get by.
Nowhere in this practiced “success” formula does it encourage anyone to pursue a career that we love and has great meaning to us as people of purpose. A career that sets your soul on fire and allows that passion and love to burn inside your being.
People with purpose need the opportunity to make such a profound impact on other’s lives and feel that warmth of complete fulfilment, creating a legacy that will give you satisfaction and sense of belonging. Always having something different and out of the ordinary to achieve the extra-ordinary.
I hate repetition of a task. I love new things. I try and expose myself to the uncomfortable situations or tasks… this sometimes means that you need to swallow your pride, find your passion, do what you love. You don’t need to be vocal or a great author to express your love for something. People that are like minded will notice your silence through all of the noise.
Do you ever feel like your dreams are crazy? Are you afraid of judgement, or your loved ones are not supporting what you want to do and who you want to be in the world?
Many of us struggle with finding and living our purpose. I did for years and still am, it was and is one of the most frustrating and painful times of my life.
As far back as I can remember I dreamed of helping others. I wanted to be a role model to troubled teenagers, a guidance counsellor to help them comprehend and maximise their potential. I was often the person my friends sought advice from when they needed help in their own lives. It felt natural to give advice and help others feel good, even though I was struggling to find my purpose.
Then life happened. I did what I thought I had to do to get by. I decided to start working, I would like to think that I have had a very successful career, working my way up the corporate ladder. I loved training, developing, and mentoring others in the aspects other than work and I was really good at it. But helping others was only part of my job. There were many other aspects of my career I learned to be good at, that I didn’t feel good about doing. I mastered those other things because that’s what I thought I had to do to have a successful career. For lack of a better way to put it, it felt yucky.
I was only living part of my purpose. I settled because that’s what I thought I had to do to survive.
I am hoping that someday soon when I leave the current career that I am in to focus on life coaching and mentoring full time which I know is exactly where I am meant to be.
I know I would then fully step into my purpose, what I was born to do.
You are born with a unique blueprint. You have natural talent and abilities that only YOU can offer. These are the things you’re passionate about that light you up inside. Whatever this is for you…this is your purpose.
Think about it. Do you have a career that you’re good at because you learned to be and you thought that’s what you had to do?
Have you fully stepped into your purpose?
My answer to question one is “Yes” and “No” to the second question.
It took me a long time to figure this out, and for a long time I felt alone. I didn’t know where to go for support and guidance.
I have however taken steps to slowly but surely fulfil my purpose.
I’ve shared my story to let you know that you’re meant to enjoy what you do in every area of your life.
Your career can and should reflect who you are in work and in life. That’s when you know you are where you are meant to be.
“People with Potential have Purpose”
– Monique Williams