So, how many of us have looked at friends, family members and even strangers who are our age and compared our lives to theirs? According to your thought process, you felt these people were doing much better than you because of what they own e.g car, size of their house and the money that they earn based on what you perceive as true.
How often do we actually really know what is happening in these people’s lives other than what they post on social media or even tell people? Secondly, how is this any of your business?
Automatically, some of us adjust our plan in our heads to force fate to go the way we want it to go. When I look back to a few years ago, I know I am guilty of it, many times, where envy was more of my drive other than my passion.
My first mistake was to allow society to determine to me what I should have, when I should have it and how much I should be earning to trump my perceived competition. Not knowing, that I was my own competition, I created someone I did not recognize as jealousy and envy blinded me.
I lost a lot of money in a business I was very optimistic about, but did not thoroughly think through. I did not have a sound business plan and I was throwing money away by living off hunches and most of all trusting people I did not know from a bar of soap.
I have thus far learnt, as much of an impatient person as I am, that me setting my REALISTIC goals to achieve MY ambitions, vision and purpose was a more fruitful and lucrative exercise.
Not all of us achieve things in the time society predicts to us when we should. We are too brainwashed by the misconception of what success is. Success is not just making and having a lot of money, owning a house that the bank still owns or even driving a car that cost us just as much as the house we live in.
Success is being obedient, disciplined and realistic about future plans. Yes, future plans, as that is the detail your business/life plan should contain. It is also being happy and passionate about what you want to achieve, how and when. It is being dedicated and stern when you need to be, as your life/business is exactly that, your business. If there are hindrances holding you back from achieving these set goals, you need to break that chain. It is unnecessary baggage for someone who has put their heart and soul into pushing and persevering to accomplish their dreams.
There are sometimes natural hindrances that will hold us back, for good reason. Refer to my blog post Love the Voice within. Intuition is key, do not allow the unnatural or self inflicted hindrances be the cause of your own demise.
Comparison is your worst enemy. It only causes you to lose focus of what is in actual fact of utmost importance to your future. Taking your eye off your race gives opportunity for you to fall/trip over a pothole, losing your balance/breaking your leg and will now become a hindrance because you have lost time and will not achieve what YOU want to in the intended time that you planned.
Listen outside the noise, you might just enjoy the peace
– Monique Williams