I do not share in the “enjoyable pass time” activity known as gossip/rumours and he said, she said stories, especially if it is not my story to share.
Gossip or rumours does not necessarily have to be something negative, it can be about someone else’s “yet to be” accomplishments too. Why share it? Why give someone else’s story your voice? Do you not feel that if that person wanted the entire world to know, they would have broadcasted it on the media platforms?
I have always maintained that “If the story is not yours to share, then don’t give it your voice.”
My daughter came home one afternoon, telling me about the misconduct of a student that was caught and this and that person said 1 2 3 4………..I immediately stopped her and said, “please do not pass on the story or talk about it to anyone” and continued by saying, “if it is not your story to share then don’t share it.”
The reason for me sticking to this motto for the last 10 years of my life was because I have witnessed the repercussions that have lead to someone getting seriously hurt, which could have been prevented had we kept to ourselves and minded our own business.
The sharing in “almost” positive news can also be detriment to someone’s success as not everyone is happy when someone is almost making it, even if the person is you. You are preventing the blessings from flowing through. If a person who shared the “almost” good news with you, entrusted you with the information and confided in you to share in their happiness and prosperity and even though you are happy for that person, does not mean the next person will feel the same. This good news of someone else’s success is NOT YOUR STORY TO SHARE……..don’t share it.
Most people pretend to be happy for you, that pretentious demeanour is harmful to our successes. Read James 3, it speaks about Controlling the tongue and how poisonous our words are that we sometimes so innocently utter or speak to cause intentional harm.
The bitterness and jealousy is draining and the gossiping can corrupt even your own potential as that jealousy and evil becomes your focus point, you tend to lose sight of yourself, what your hopes and dreams are because you are so dead set on destroying someone else’s.
The ripple effect of passing on a story, good or bad has it’s ebb and flow. Decide who you want to be and not be that of what someone else perceives you to be.
The first and only question you should ask yourself when that “misery likes company” engaging discussion comes about, is, “why do they feel so comfortable talking to me about it?” So either the person sharing the news with you trusts you or the person who is gossiping with you knows that you enjoy rumours and gossip.
Which one are you?
If it is not your story to share, then don’t give it your voice