As we all start 2018 with new perspectives, aspirations and new outlook on how to improve the person we are and also the person we are towards others, this is but a few of the “New Year Resolutions.”
We kick off on a new slate, after our self reflection and responsibility as individuals in refining our character.
New Year’s Resolution are 3 words some people dread hearing and most times fail to accomplish in honoring their promise.
The vital concept that is “un”-present, and the verity that you need to grasp is that you should not vow to resolutions to impress others; and the commitment of the resolutions is to enhance yourself, hence this promise has to be made to yourself and the judgement of others should not take presedence over the fulfillment that you experience when you are “true to you.” You add more value to “you” when you are able to augment the encompassed characteristics that makes you “you.” You automatically evolve and grow into becoming a better “you” for you and for others.
This also gives people an idea and added substance to who you are, in terms of morals, ethics and most importantly the integrity that flourishes from that. Most times we accept the things people do to us and brush most things off with “as long as I am not like that” comfort words. The wake up call is that, if you do not nip it in the bud, people will continue to treat you with eg. disrespect and you slowly but surely become a “walk over.”
So, what if your resolution for the new year is to live a healthier lifestyle? Well, the simple and most times evaded question before making resolution is WHY? Why have you chosen to live a healthier lifestyle/ ridding yourself from bad relationships/ more amicable family get together’s/ working on your marriage/ becoming a more effective and present parent or to become a more decisive person when people mistreat you.
Next question is, HOW will this benefit you and others? And; WHAT is the end in mind by making these resolutions?
A saying that breaks it down is, “You need to crawl before you can walk and you need to walk before you can run.”
Small changes are more effective than the elephant you confront yourself with, time after time. Try and write down your resolutions on a daily basis. Make failure difficult to opt for and there should be a very strong WHY behind the commitment. Once this behavior becomes second nature, it will be much easier to commit and follow through.
Measure your progress by self reflecting and get input from people who want the best for you. Be patient, we cannot change in the flip of a switch, we are just not programmed that way and change is more challenging for some.
Some thing is better than nothing. You have taken the first step to enhancing “you.”
And, last but not least…..GET UP WHEN YOU SLIP UP! This creates perseverance and contains a process of elimination. If the method you have used does not work, try something else and get an objective opinion from your loved ones.
DO NOT SHARE YOUR RESOLUTION WITH EVERYBODY! This is our mistake, innocently so. We perceive that everyone has our best interest at heart, but let’s face the “ugly truth,” this is most certainly not always the case. Some people grab their popcorn and switch on their TV and cannot wait for that moment when we miserably fail to achieve the one thing our heart desires. “The tongue is mightier than the sword.” People’s words will hurt us and the ripple effect thereof has a widespread repercussion, especially when you are trying to implement the practice within your children.
“Discouraging Words of other’s curses the fruit of your Loins.“
We as parents strive to give our children a bright and happy future and our blood sweat and tears cannot be in someone else’s hands.
Lastly and most importantly, protect your dreams and goals with prayer as this serves as an armour no mortal can deteriorate.
Instill this values in your children, to always persevere, having faith and belief in their abilities and even inabilities, to not opt for failure as an easy way out. This will make them confident and accept certain objectives that they are not equipped to achieve. This creates a trait to try and try and try anyway.
Being comfortable with who they are is the goal in mind. This can only happen if we too practice this, being an adult is not the exception to the rule and we are guilty of this information we portray and even verbalise to our children.
Acceptance, enhancing who you are where you feel it’s needed and the role model you want to be to “Generation Next” is your elephant; and can only be overcome when “you are true to you.”