I’m sure most of my readers wonder why I hold my dad in such high regard, considering the comments in my previous posts, how my dad treated my mom and I. I know some comments were not positive, then again, we all have our flaws and strengths, after all no one is perfect.
Please also keep in mind, that as a child, whatever I felt, experienced and was exposed to and the effect thereof was my perception at that point in time, drawing my own concept of what was reality. At the end of the day, your perception is your reality.
Along with my dad’s negative attributes, he had a mountain of positive traits as well, like most of us.
He has taught me:
- That giving my best does not mean that I shouldn’t push myself a little harder the next time, even after achieving the envisioned results.
- Not to close myself off from obtaining and expanding my knowledge of unfamiliar fields, territory or expertise.
- Not to limit my opportunities by settling for complacency.
- That satisfaction of achievements is another door to the next challenge for you to accomplish.
- Not to hide from complexities or adversities, instead, embrace it as an opportunity to either fail and learn or succeed and grow.
- Independency. He always use to tell me, “Don’t fail and “need” people, succeed and exceed the “need”.
- Education is your golden door of challenges, which leads to possibility and probability, to either stumble, fall and get back up or accomplish, enhance and advance. Failing and falling has always been a part of the journey to success and happiness.
- That family is very important, no matter the stretch of the extended family. During my childhood there was never a weekend, holiday or celebration without any family member present, even if the family relations spread far and wide.
- To be Loud and Humorous. I definitely, genetically, inherited this from my dad. “Life of the party” was an understatement when it came to his boisterous laughter and jokes, parading around with his nose in the air and exuberant confidence. Anyone could sense his energy and aura when he walked into a room, without even seeing him. It was contagious.
- That stepping out of my triangle’s comfort zone and into the unknown, even with just a drop of faith, will allow my path to take it’s course and impulsively prompting my survival mode to stimulate momentously.
My dad would have celebrated his 57th birthday on the 25th September 2017.
This blog post was supposed to be published on that day, as usual, I was too emotional to publish it.
A week prior to his birthday, on the 13th September, 20 years ago, my dad, my hero was summoned as his purpose on earth was fulfilled.
I, at that time, did not think it was his “time,” it was my perception which was my reality. To date, I am grateful and thankful for the impactful influence my dad had in my life, even though it was short-lived and he is not here to witness it. My genetically inherited traits and personality similarities to that of my dad, has carried me a long way, both personally and professionally; and it has made me just as career driven and family orientated as he was.
Thank you Daddy #ForeverMyHero #ForeverYourLittleGirl #GodNeededAHero #HeavensHeroes #Happy57thHeavenlyBirthday
I will pass on two quotes to you that my dad passed on to me:
“Only those who dare to fail greatly, can ever achieve greatly.”
Robert F Kennedy
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again,only this time more wisely.”