Almost all challenges, opportunities, unfavourable circumstances, good and bad friendship circles and relationships are as a result of the decisions we make; revealing that there are so many life determining factors, and thanks to Isaac Newton for his “law of motion”, we can apply this to so many parts of our lives.
I have made many bad decisions in my life, in which effort and success of it was procrastinated, and resulted in a negative affect and impeded my growth, professionally and personally, encumbering my success as a parent and fulfillment in career choices that did not provide me with an advantage.
So what does the proven “law of motion” (success of work done) formula say:
Force is always a push or a pull, that changes the state of rest or motion, direction or shape of an object. Force causes an object to accelerate or slow down, add’s to the object’s pressure, direction or shape change. Many other factors are taken into account, such as weight and force on an object, which describes Newton’s second law of motion.
So this is how I applied the equation to one of the areas of my life:
“My relationship with my kids”
The amount of “work” I put into eg. Overcoming academic constraints , making sure I get an early start, the “perseverance/dedication” (force) becoming second hand nature to them and me; and if I do it for a long “period of time”(distance); and how often the work has to be done, this will result in their “state of rest” now in “motion” (work done), over the total “force” (perseverance/dedication) multiplied by the “distance” (period of time), shaping your child’s character to understand the proven outcome of hard “work” assisting the “direction” and positive or negative life changing decisions, depending on the level of dedication and commitment from both sides.
It took me a long time to come to the realisation that I needed to stop the sense of entitlement thoughts; and apply more effort to the work that needed to be done before reaping the benefits of my productivity.
There are diverse influencing factors which contributes to that kind of philosophies and reason for parents to portray impactful traits, being virtuous and moral role models for their children and every other child.
My objective and purpose for this blog post is to convey to parents that providing your child with the proper guidance and tools, will aid and lead them on a successful career and life path, choosing healthy, enhancing and beneficial relationships/career opportunities.
I am still learning every day on how to be a role model parent; and there are no hard and fast rules in this regard, however, researching and experimenting different approaches has educated and steered me to becoming a better parent; placing a cessation on the way I think, and promoting alternative thinking patterns.
My middle son, Tristan, had to repeat Grade R this year, because of his lack of confidence and social skills. I had to make a conscious decision, firstly to admit that I as a parent was lacking in knowledge to grow him in those areas; and secondly, that I had to do something about it. I found an extra mural activity that he loved, karate, and used that to motivate, encourage and inspire him to persevere no matter how complicated it seems; and that practising what he learnt everyday to overcome the idea of being afraid of the unknown. This resulted in a boosted confidence and improved progress academically.
“For every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction” and “one force cannot exist without the other”…..make sure it is positive